[imperfect_cupcake]

Hmn. Hard. Dominant personality mixed with submissive sexuality. I like being pursued but will make it real clear if someone is pushing too hard. I prefer relaxed, easy going, genuine interest, rather than being chased. I like mild initiation and patience.
I react very poorly to being pushed.
But I'm pretty independent. I'm not a single tackle kind of gal. I won't initiate contact. I've learned not to. I've had so many bad experiences with initiating contact that it will take me months of interaction for me to initiate for a change. I've learned that if *I* initiate, people lose interest. They've succeeded. They have won. And they lose interest. So I have to trust the person isn't like that before I try.
I may be open and frank about who I am, what I think, but I'm emotionally reserved. So it does take patience. And it will take months, not weeks, to get me to emotionally respond in a deeper way.
I saw someone recently bitching that someone she was dating hadn't committed after three months and should she drop her and go for someone else who had expressed interest. The butch is my age. These are the reasons I don't commit quickly. People like that.

So it's not hunting me... It's hand feeding something feral till it trusts enough to stay longer and longer in your presence and I decide to stay. They loyalty payback is massive, but heaps of patience needed.