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Originally Posted by imperfect_cupcake
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I understand what you're saying, and I'm pleasantly startled to realize I feel almost the same way. By that I mean I may want to settle down in the same house with a partner one day, but it's not going to be anytime soon. Yeah, I recall mentioning the gimme gimmes, but I was freshly back on the dating scene and my picker had to be recalibrated several times at first.
I like women like I like wine--the older the vintage...nevermind... I don't want to draw any more gunfire.
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We'll thing is, people here are just as opinionated as you are. I've gotten into full on scraps with lots of people here, mostly years ago. I got my arse handed to me on a plate a few times. I stuck around and learned how to socially understand posting in large forums.
Understanding number one - people don't know context to your comments unless you actually tell them.
Understanding number two - saying, yeah, ok that was kinda shit. Sorry. And meaning it rather than trying to always keep a wry upper hand works well. But then I used to apologise for a living and having to explain to hospital workers that saying "sorry" to patients saved a fuckton of bad feelings, upset and me having to mediates formal complaint.
Cheek is hard to read in text from those you don't know. And it's really culturally dependant on it being funny.
Don't take it personally. And saying things in like "I don't want to draw more gunfire" ... Dude, put a cup on
it won't stop people from voicing their opinions on the subjects you talk about anymore than it would stop you from responding to their posts.
It's a discussion forum. People are going to tell you exactly what they think. If you don't like certain posters, block them. You won't see their posts. I have a couple people blocked.
That's just an aside about posting in large, community based forums. Some of us "know each other" for 15 years.
I personally miss the big meaty topics with lots of argumentation and critical thinking. And if you used some faulty thinking, you got called out on it. If you couldn't say "oh, right. Shit. Ok. I see your point" then you looked like a complete twat. That, at least, still happens here. People speak out and people take things on the chin.
Anyway, back to the thread. Sorry for the derail.