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Originally Posted by AtLastHome
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Something that has occured to me is that I am simply comfortable with myself and butch presentation. I engage with people no matter what group is present. Sure, I see a few of those glances at times, but, I look past these and talk with people and leave the chips behind. What I find is that a look is just that, a look and when someone finds that I am just like every one else in terms of communication, interersts, goals, experiences, etc., we don't have to remain stuck in labels, but relate as human beings.
Yes, we have gone through a lot of crap through the years, however, I am not going to assume or pre-judge what someone else that does not know me might do or say. I just don't navigate the world based upon a defensive stance. If something comes up, I'll deal with it then.
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i agree with you AtLast. i find that when i give people the opportunity to see that our interactions are as 'normal' as theirs, they tend to be more open and less on edge. Yes, there are some who give 'the look' and/or make comments, but usually i tend to just let them slide on past with a smile...unless it's one of those moments.
This goes for as many gay women as straights, btw. Gay men around here seem to be the only group who are, generally, non-judgmental about b-f dynamics.
i have found that for me, here, people usually tend to not get so defensive and ready to judge without thinking when they are given the opportunity to realize that the relationships i have with the butches in my life are as normal and natural as their relationships with their friends & lovers.
i mean, if i go into a social situation with my defenses up, ready to counter-attack, what can i expect, really??
(i love that smilie!)