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Nat · 01-13-2016, 09:06 AM

My list changed a lot when I realized kids weren't a part of my future - and then realized as much as I had wanted one that I was actually relieved to have this big uncharted future ahead of me.

But really that list is changing for me too - my dreams are changing - I don't know really what I want yet - my new dreams are still being dreamed up. It's kind of exciting. I wouldn't drag someone into that. I may never.

Life changes, people change, dreams change. It's not settling to listen to the longings of today and - especially if it doesn't require dumping someone overboard - to shift course for whatever longings suit the present you rather than whatever past you of perhaps different appetites and depths and longings may have at one time wanted.

01-13-2016, 09:06 AM	#71
Nat Senior Member How Do You Identify?: bigender (DID System) Preferred Pronoun?: he/him or alter-specific Relationship Status: Unavailable Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Central TX Posts: 3,537 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 11,047 Thanked 13,972 Times in 2,591 Posts Rep Power: 21474855	My list changed a lot when I realized kids weren't a part of my future - and then realized as much as I had wanted one that I was actually relieved to have this big uncharted future ahead of me. But really that list is changing for me too - my dreams are changing - I don't know really what I want yet - my new dreams are still being dreamed up. It's kind of exciting. I wouldn't drag someone into that. I may never. Life changes, people change, dreams change. It's not settling to listen to the longings of today and - especially if it doesn't require dumping someone overboard - to shift course for whatever longings suit the present you rather than whatever past you of perhaps different appetites and depths and longings may have at one time wanted. __________________ I'm a fountain of blood. In the shape of a girl. - Bjork What is to give light must endure burning. -Viktor Frankl Last edited by Nat; 01-13-2016 at 09:26 AM.