Are we holding Cynthia Nixon up to a certain standard because
she's with a butch woman?
she's a star?
she was an actor in Sex in the City?
she's a woman?
I think Heart has a point that describing a masculine woman as a "short man with boobs" is unfeminist and offensive.
If part of straight privilege is never being asked to speak for everyone who is heterosexual, is it fair for us to expect her to speak for every butch and every person who has ever loved a butch? Do you read her as defining every butch when she describes her own partner that way?
How can we encourage her to do better next time? Should we all write her letters? Books, perhaps? An invitation to join the site?