[imperfect_cupcake]

I got married in Holland to my Dutch wife. We are divorced. We had one solicitor for the both of us, just to do the paper work. I could have gotten seven years of alimony from my wife because of the circumstances and reasons for the divorce. I didn't take it, I said no (though occasionally when I was eating pancakes for dinner and lunch and no milk or sugar for my coffee and having to sneak onto the train because I had no train fare while I was a student I kicked myself....). It was a very, very easy divorce because as much as I hated it, as much as I wanted her to suffer (at the time) I knew that it was wrong to be venidctive.

However, one of my exes took her wife to court and because she (my ex) raised the kid at home and was a house spouse for 8 years while her partner worked, she did wind up with a large package of money because her partner was fooling around and took off for a few months to "find herself" and left her with the kid. It looked quite bad to the court, doing that. They charged abondonment.

So. Now if you do get married, and you decide to play silly buggers and fuck knuckle about, your partner will be able to rip you clean, financially. And will.

So, best to no be an arse if you sign a legal bit of paper. I *could* have had part of my exes earnings for seven years because of her behaviour. So... Play nice.

Yes, I would get married again. No I would never live with someone again. Not only can I play bagpipes at 3am if I feel like it, keeping seperate abodes makes the legal separation much easier, should it occur.