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apretty · 05-14-2010, 11:34 PM

2 days ago i was a passenger in the car with ez--he got pulled over, and along with ez's license, registration and proof of insurance the cop looked over at me and asked to see my ID.

i said no, he asked if i had ID, i said yes and asked, 'why do you want to see it?' and the cop said, 'i just want to look at it' so i said 'no'. i wasn't doing anything wrong, i was even wearing my seatbelt...

after 20 minutes of detaining us (and honestly, i'm getting increasingly nervous), he comes back and gives ez two fix-it tickets and never mentions my ID again--we're allowed to leave.

i was 'existing' while appearing brown. i discussed this with my local friend (who's femme and latina) because we often have *opposite* experiences because she often passes as white. she thinks that i didn't seem as 'suspicious' once i spoke and she's probably right--had i spoken with an accent, maybe he would have pressed the issue, or maybe he would have arrested me, i don't know.

05-14-2010, 11:34 PM	#439
apretty Senior Member How Do You Identify?: femme Preferred Pronoun?: sea shell Relationship Status: married Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: san diego Posts: 1,687 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,927 Thanked 4,373 Times in 1,012 Posts Rep Power: 21474853	arizona: good times. 2 days ago i was a passenger in the car with ez--he got pulled over, and along with ez's license, registration and proof of insurance the cop looked over at me and asked to see my ID. i said no, he asked if i had ID, i said yes and asked, 'why do you want to see it?' and the cop said, 'i just want to look at it' so i said 'no'. i wasn't doing anything wrong, i was even wearing my seatbelt... after 20 minutes of detaining us (and honestly, i'm getting increasingly nervous), he comes back and gives ez two fix-it tickets and never mentions my ID again--we're allowed to leave. i was 'existing' while appearing brown. i discussed this with my local friend (who's femme and latina) because we often have opposite experiences because she often passes as white. she thinks that i didn't seem as 'suspicious' once i spoke and she's probably right--had i spoken with an accent, maybe he would have pressed the issue, or maybe he would have arrested me, i don't know.