[BullDog]

A few more thoughts.

I personally am not looking for femmes to be nurturing and attentive towards me. I am not looking for a mother. I already have one.

I haven't seen anyone being upset about honest mistakes in pronoun usage.

I've heard several people mention how exhausting it is to have to try and remember or get things right. At the same time I hear so much talk about gender diversity and fighting against the binary. Gender in butch femme communities isn't simple. If you are in favor of gender diversity you are going to have to deal with more variables. Not all butches are the same in their gender expression. Not all femmes are the same in their gender expression. Not all trans men and trans women are the same in their gender expressions. No one is going to simplify their gender because people find it exhausting.

I agree with HowSoonIsNow, there needs to be more femme gender discussion. I have always been greatly interested in these discussions and have always participated in them where I felt appropriate.

I said in this thread that I feel Femme is a transgressive gender as much as Butch is. I have always believed that to be the case.