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SuperFemme · 05-15-2010, 10:49 AM

I often wonder if some of us Femme's are SO blind to misogyny and sexism that it doesn't occur to really give thought as to *why* there is an automatic default to He/Hy?

What does that say about how deeply socialized sexism is? Because a lot of Femme's come out later in life after having relationships with and marriages to bio-men. Where naturally that default is He.

Then behold the b/f community! I will get blasted for saying this a site/community built on women/women relationships. Which is sad. So let's just go with this is a community built on Queer relations? For me it has been MORE of an adjustment to remember the male pronouns and being made to feel badly for using She/Shy. I think that is odd given the circumstances.

Is it some kind of internal homophobia that Femme's default to He/Hy? I have been sitting here for days with this question rolling around in my head. Because I am confused not as to the general He/Hy default but more as to the WHY's of it.

Anyone?

05-15-2010, 10:49 AM	#289
SuperFemme Timed Out How Do You Identify?: Permanently Banned 10/24/2010 Preferred Pronoun?: She. Relationship Status: Married (one of 18,000) Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Atascadero, CA Posts: 4,933 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 2,309 Thanked 7,108 Times in 2,327 Posts Rep Power: 0	I often wonder if some of us Femme's are SO blind to misogyny and sexism that it doesn't occur to really give thought as to why there is an automatic default to He/Hy? What does that say about how deeply socialized sexism is? Because a lot of Femme's come out later in life after having relationships with and marriages to bio-men. Where naturally that default is He. Then behold the b/f community! I will get blasted for saying this a site/community built on women/women relationships. Which is sad. So let's just go with this is a community built on Queer relations? For me it has been MORE of an adjustment to remember the male pronouns and being made to feel badly for using She/Shy. I think that is odd given the circumstances. Is it some kind of internal homophobia that Femme's default to He/Hy? I have been sitting here for days with this question rolling around in my head. Because I am confused not as to the general He/Hy default but more as to the WHY's of it. Anyone?