Yeay, what a great thread!
Yes, I think Femme Tops, Femme Daddys, Butch Bottoms, Femme Cock etc etc. freaks people out and I love that!
It is sad that in a community that prides itself on bluring gender, people get so bent out of shape. We have enountered it often, but hope maybe people will become more open minded as they learn about different lifestyles?
I think it is important for those of us who don't do a set Male=Butch=Dominant and vice versa thing speak out and be visible.
I for one am thrilled that there are Butches in this world who do not 'haaave" to run the show.
I think it shows incredible strenth to gift control to another person and I admire this quality more than I can say.