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Boots13 · 11-23-2009, 11:06 AM

Or more aptly the butch?

I just repped Selenay because I enjoyed her perspective, but also feel that her information was met with some degree of denial or hostility by a few others. And thats OK too.

I will tell you, for me, its a hard pill to swallow. I remember seeing old, old, old (probably at least in their fifties, shit, thats me...) bull dykes, daggers, walking around. Looking tired in their leather, sporting mullets, doing the whole flannel shirt thing. And while I appreciated their "breaking ground" for me, I didnt want to be that when I grew old. I wanted to fly my own flag-

And here I am, partnered with a femme, having worked hard through the years to maintain my identity and paying some heavy prices for being so identifiable. I sit here, thrilled to be me, knowing I am in my place, settled in my Butchness, and LOVING my Femme, but wondering what the younger generation thinks about us "oldsters" .

I dont feel defensive, just thoroughly interested in our..yes OUR younger generation and the direction they see themselves going.

11-23-2009, 11:06 AM	#15
Boots13 Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: No Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: PNW Posts: 823 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,387 Thanked 2,313 Times in 428 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Does the buck stop here? Or more aptly the butch? I just repped Selenay because I enjoyed her perspective, but also feel that her information was met with some degree of denial or hostility by a few others. And thats OK too. I will tell you, for me, its a hard pill to swallow. I remember seeing old, old, old (probably at least in their fifties, shit, thats me...) bull dykes, daggers, walking around. Looking tired in their leather, sporting mullets, doing the whole flannel shirt thing. And while I appreciated their "breaking ground" for me, I didnt want to be that when I grew old. I wanted to fly my own flag- And here I am, partnered with a femme, having worked hard through the years to maintain my identity and paying some heavy prices for being so identifiable. I sit here, thrilled to be me, knowing I am in my place, settled in my Butchness, and LOVING my Femme, but wondering what the younger generation thinks about us "oldsters" . I dont feel defensive, just thoroughly interested in our..yes OUR younger generation and the direction they see themselves going.