11-23-2009, 11:09 AM
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Pink Confection
How Do You Identify?: Femme
Preferred Pronoun?: She, Her, Ma'am
Relationship Status: Dating Myself
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Location: Nashville
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Originally Posted by Medusa
Mad love!
Im curious as to what you think here, Selly. Do you see the disappearance (relevance) of the terminology "Butch" and "Femme", or is it more a disappearance of the culture?
Is it an access issue? An exposure issue? Is it that younger folks are trying to carve out something that feels better to them?
Im 33 myself. When I first came out I remember having a "culture shock" within the context of B/F because I had been exposed to Lesbians who totally dismissed what they viewed as rigid adherence to gender conformity and hegemonic idealism...and here I was suddenly immersed and surrounded with folks who embraced the dynamic.
I will also admit to feeling a little turned off at first with what I felt like was a lot of posturing to be the "most" Femme or the "most" Butch. A distinct hierarchy, if you will.
I also fully recognize that my "Femme" definitely isnt the same as it was 13 years ago. She is looking a lot less like Betty Crocker and a lot more like a cross between the Bride of Chuckie and my (favorite) archetype "Medusa" (hence the screen name).
Didnt mean to hijack here and turn it inward, but Selly has me thinking. (thats never a bad thing)
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Great post!
Cynthia says when I am mad I am Chuckie.
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