[SassyLeo]

Originally Posted by SassyLeo

Is part of the reason that the younger generation does not identify with these terms because they don't have someone to lead the way for them, specifically (as in a close elder friend)? Or because as a society we are delving deeper into what gender/gender identity looks like? Or really because of the general evolution of human/sexuality/identities?

These are just thoughts for the moment... forgive the rawness...

Originally Posted by PapaC

The only 'real time' community off the internet where there is an abundance of butches and femmes that I've ever participated in is in San Francisco. Who do we have to thank for that? Community organizers. (nodding in Toughy's direction)... I know there's a lot happening in NY as well. How? oh yeah... *community organizers*

But apart from pockets of online communities and some real time community organizers in large urban areas, is "Butch" and "Femme" known or used terms? Frankly folks, I don't think I've *ever* lived (and lived as queer) where Butch and Femme were actually "popular" terms.

They are however, I believe: timeless

Originally Posted by Medusa

Mad love!

Im curious as to what you think here, Selly. Do you see the disappearance (relevance) of the terminology "Butch" and "Femme", or is it more a disappearance of the culture?

Is it an access issue? An exposure issue? Is it that younger folks are trying to carve out something that feels better to them?

Didnt mean to hijack here and turn it inward, but Selly has me thinking. (thats never a bad thing)

I think we are all kind of talking about the same thing... and I really dig the discussion (do people still say "dig"? :>). I also love hearing from the younger folks (ok sometimes that feels weird to say because I still think of myself as young...) yes, Selly...you, please talk more!!! I am learning still, everyday, and while I feel somewhat sad that maybe the terms butch and femme are less used and maybe even considered outdated by some, I am encouraged by the progression we have made in terms of acceptance in the queer culture to include so much fluidity.