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Originally Posted by urs
There will always be misunderstandings... the trick is to move on.
Easier said than done! I don't know if it's an Aspie thing, but I berate myself when I am part of a misunderstanding. I was quite old when I realised that most others just shake it off and keep going (but I don't know if that's a neurotypical thing in particular).
It's a very painful part of my existence, especially as misunderstandings can happen relatively frequently when you're an Aspie, but I am working on it.
Do you think it's an Aspie thing? The berating oneself I mean. Oh, and the hanging on to stuff that is best let go? 'Cause that's something else I have to work on!
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Urs -
My Aspie son doesn't berate himself. In fact, Bratboy has quite an opposite reaction in that he ALWAYS projects any blame/responsibility on others. Nothing is ever his fault. As a parent, I find this as equally difficult to navigate as the self berating. I "think" it would be easier to try and show him that he is not solely responsible for something rather than to try and show him that he does have responsibility in a situation.
We have NINE days of school left and if the last week has been an indicator, I would rather eat nails. He has decided that he doesn't need to go, that he can just repeat the 11th grade next year.
He knows well enough that he will finish the school year, and to me, the frustration is that he spends so much time making the simplest of things so fucking difficult. I keep reminding him that he isnt 18, he doesnt live in a democracy and in most instances, he doesnt get to vote. LOL