For me, it aren't any rules set in stone. I do, however, know within 10 minutes or so.
I have met hot Butches and have been initially attracted, chemistry and all, yet that chemistry fades after I realize the lights are on but nobody is home.
The opposite has also happened. If the chemistry is off the charts, sometimes intelligence takes a back seat. Those relationships don't succeed, and I know that now, but damn.
My perfect scenario, an intelligent, stone butch that I share crazy chemistry with. It has to be there for me. While I love good conversation, I can't do it without chemistry. It's just who I am.
My son tells me that I am wayyy to picky, I'm not. I just know what I want and need in order to put the work in.
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Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them - that only creates sorrow.
Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.
~Lao Tzu
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