[girl_dee]

Originally Posted by PaPa

My mind has been pondering how people with a history of being victimized in abusive relationships in the past can establish ways of acting that perpetuate abuse in future relationships. They become so used to the pattern that they willingly go to those behaviors when with a new person. This also leads me to believe that chances are the new partner will be abusive too. This was all sparked by a friend I went to undergrad with who is now doing crisis work related to domestic abuse...

it becomes the *norm*... so the person has to REALLY do something horrible to make it seem abusive. it takes a lot of work and deprogramming to see this.