[Gemme]

Originally Posted by Lyte

You are so right!

My thought was ... it's two very different meanings with (essentially) the same name... when spoken. Which is why I said I'd have to have the gal write down her preference. Iol Written down... then I'd know if she was with a space or without a space femme.

Or you could just talk about it. lol

Originally Posted by *Anya*

I think that these days, labels are a general "alert" ( probably the wrong word) as to what a person feels comfortable with, to narrow the dating pool down a tad.

The only way to really know, is to discuss. Even then, for some, it depends on the person and the situation.

By the time you are ready to have sex of any type, a clear and open discussion should have already been had.

I do training at my job (one of my hats) about HIV/AIDS and it still amazes me the number of people that tell me that they have sex first and ask the questions after or tell me "but he or she looked clean". I have straight men/straight women/transfolk/lesbians and gays; so it is everyone not always having those open and honest discussions.

By that point, uh oh.

Yes, there are many different sexual identities and desires for lesbians, too.

Yes! To all of this.

You have two cans of food. One has a label and one doesn't. The one without the label could be anything, good or bad or a combination of both, but at least you have an idea of what might be in the other can, even if the label is faded and worn or half torn off. You at least have a clue of what you might be in for.

I get what you are saying about an 'alert'. Labels give me a general idea of what someone's likes/dislikes/limits might be but without a good conversation filled with hard and honest questions, one will not know for sure.

Never make assumptions, though.