Cool thread subject!
At first, when I came out in the early 80's, it was so not cool to be Femme and to be honest I fought being Femme. I was told I had to be submissive and a bottom to be Femme. Of course now I know that is not true.
I definitely have a guy side. I wear makeup sometimes, but not always. I love to watch cartoons with my hand in my pants like Al Bundy and burp aloud. I know way more about cars than my Butch G/F who used to work in a car factory.
I also had a childhood that made me want to hide my femininity and also did the Goth thing, though in college, not high school. I still tend to wear black a lot. Regular makeup is the same as Goth, just less harsh colors. Not sure what your coloring is, but I wear brown liner instead of black and so forth now. I would still do the Goth thing, but at 46, it does not seem like an option any more...I save it for parties from time to time.
No matter what I wear, or what I am doing I am girly, so I finally decided to accept it and go with being Femme.
There are all types of Femme, just enjoy being YOU!
That was kinda rambling, but I hope it helps.