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Originally Posted by Esme nha Maire
Anya, thank you. Probably me overthinking things, then.
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You are welcome!
I had another thought.
No matter who we are attracted to, people change over the years.
We have no way to know when someone may be unconsciously struggling with gender or identity issues.
As time goes on, the unconscious can become conscious.
It does not mean that the person was being dishonest, they may not have even been aware of their feelings.
There is no way to prepare for every eventuality.
When I was 16, I saw my first butch. I knew that she gave me butterflies in my stomach and that I felt extremely nervous when I was around her.
I married and had 2 children before my repressed lesbian feelings came to the surface and I was in touch with them consciously.
The end of my marriage had zero to do with this but what if it did?
All we can do is to be as honest as we can be with ourselves and pay attention to anything that gives us concern when we meet people to date.
Dating is anxiety-producing, regardless.
Sometimes, we just have to take a chance and go for it.
I have been single again since this past October. I just realized it has been 10 months and that I still have not felt ready to date yet.
I can give advice, maybe I should take it...
