[Stoney]

WOW ..If I wanted to really stir the pot I could throw in some of my feminist, stomp the patriarchal society,secret man- hatin' semi-separatist attitude in all this but some how I have a feeling it just wouldnt fly...

I dont know about all of you but I dont really want to easily fit into a group. I want MY personal views recognized , I dont want to compromise any thing about who I am, Hell Im half way or better though with creating that person. I aint cuttin' off my corners so I can fit into that hole.
I have been living this life the longest and have the most invested in it. How can anyone tell me how Im supposed to feel and be more educated than me about me?.
Ill argue with a chauvinist till the bitter end if they wanna go.... male female, doesn't matter, it is the mentality not the body or the vehicle that person's soul rides around in.
If I dont verbally kick their ass... I will graciously thank them for the learning experience.
Seriously ,I would thank them either way. Interaction with others, finding a place of belonging is all good stuff as long as you arent swimming around in a humongous school, in uniform, only going where the head fish moves, ( hell who is the head fish anyway???

In my LIFE I'm the head fish, If people wanna follow me or not whatever, Ill take responsibility for where my path leads, whether I end up there all alone or with a bunch of fish followin me there. how many do or do not... means nothing to me.

I wanted to make a comment on a post by adorable about the cinco de mayo thing and her gf.

now.......I dont completely agree that this was dismissing of her identity.

Dumb ignorance maybe but malicious intention no.

To wish some one a happy May 5th is not a ruthless act or even an insult, it was a wish for a good day...was it not... why read in so deep wtf?'

remind me of George Carlin the cashier says" have a NICE day'.. he says" hey fuck you asshole... what if I wanna have a shitty day!!!!!"




I have found in this life that there are a lot of dummies in this world.There are folks that lack social grace, there are people that say dumb things when they are uncomfortable, In an honest attempt to do the exact opposte of dissmiss them, but to somehow acknowledge their difference in a good way, or they are curious.

kids say things like" hey mom is that a boy or a girl.... or look mom that man is wearing a dress , what do we do?? go up and slap the parents? the kid? or go home and quickly take off the dress and never go out in public again..... or maybe organize a rally against parents that dont teach their children proper ways to ignore or avoid differences in politically correct manner........

naw... hell no, it would be easier to take offense, make a comment, scare the kid, and the parent, instilling fear when there could have been simple tolerance and a smile. not an assumption that it was an insult or judgment call.

We need to get thicker skin if we expect to rough the storm of becoming the person we aspire to be. Being a non conformist is the most fightening we face as humans..because we seek relationships and love and to rock the boat might decrease our chances... we think.
then there is the obvious rude comments and actions of assholes for the sake of being assholes,

By the same token, Are ya really gonna let it fuck up your whole day? some dumb fuck head telling you how they think you should live or be or love... ???

On an assumption.......WE all assume , how else could we reason... or relate, or interpret without basing what we see on what we know to be true...? I mean ya could, but it's better to just laugh it off , or use it as an opportunity to educate the person or a chance to make a joke. why draw that kind of energy, most people dont really get it anyways and never will.

hell I weighed about 500 lbs.... people said all kinds of rude shit to me,did mean rude shit to me, ignored and made fun of, whisked their children away from me , treated me like I was mentally incompetent, an idiot and even a freak and the fact I was a woman AND a dyke didnt help much either....Ya think?

Yeah Im a feminist, I reject the attitude of the patriarchal society, I embrace "MY" womanhood I will fight and strive to empower myself my sisters . Does that mean I cant honor your world? no It doesnt ... but it may be that I dont understand it ....or just plain dont or cant relate to it,because it is not for me doesnt make it wrong,

But For me to jumble all men into a pile ( although tempting) JK..... makes me no better informed than the ignorant people who (if I so choose to entertain their uneducated opinion of me) insult and belittle or..choose to devalue my womanhood.

There are spaces fo r" women' only for those women that feel the need for that commonality or empowerment, I love womyns community my feminine SPIRIT is nurtured by that energy....maybe yours is not.... but truely before we can jump on others perception of us we need to find how it is we feel about ourselves. How much of what others think about you makes you who you are?, are you what people define you as or are you really the person you think you are?. Who's runnin this circus?

It aint the 8th clown out of the car, thats probably a given.

We need to lighten up on each other, no matter what, we are all on our own journey...every word you say effects my journey in the way I determine consciously or unconsciously...and the same is for all of us.

I choose to not be a clown.... but that doesn't mean a circus doesn't need a clown.
there are plenty of people to fill that position though out this life.....the story of me: and of you.

The circus really wouldnt be as much fun with out them would it?

I'm gonna be a feminist and activist for the long haul, dont think it will change , I will argue with men who wish to argue and debate with me probably till my spirit soars from this body . Im not dismissing anyone when I say I have always felt their were two kinds of people in this world....women and their children.

Cant say that isnt true, now can we.
peace all!
Stoney