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TenderKnight · 05-28-2010, 04:38 PM

Greetings

First off, I am posting this thread to start a discussion about Women's Space and how as transgender males we can respect it.

I know that this has been a process for me, sometimes a painful one. I came out as a lesbian at 18, I ID'd as female. Not because I *felt* female, but because that is the only way I thought I could ID. Then I discovered the Gender Spectrum. WOW.. I found where I belonged!

I am a guy. As such, I don't go into women only space.. I *don't* belong. I am not saying that because I feel excluded and negitive about, more along the lines of I am not a woman, so why would I go into thier space?

It did and still does kind of feel weird. It is something I have to grieve, this loss of being part of that community. I will grieve a bit when I get my Top surgery too, I think.. I am going to lose something that has been with me always. Not saying that I don't want the fat sacks gone, God knows that I DO.. But it is also a further step into being part of the male community.

I hope that I am being clear here, I am never sure if I am or not.. lol

My points in this thread are these..

-Do you still feel like you should be welcomed into women's only space after you own your male ID?

-How do you try to show respect for the women that need and want thier own space?

-Did you feel a loss of something after a certain point in your transition?

I look forward to seeing how this thread spins out.. I truely hope that it is read as I intend and not as a bash or a rehash of other topics.

Thank you,
Tony

05-28-2010, 04:38 PM	#1
TenderKnight Member How Do You Identify?: Kinky Poly Transman Preferred Pronoun?: He Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Monroe, NC Posts: 551 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 773 Thanked 822 Times in 256 Posts Rep Power: 2402408	Respecting Women's Space as a transgender male Greetings First off, I am posting this thread to start a discussion about Women's Space and how as transgender males we can respect it. I know that this has been a process for me, sometimes a painful one. I came out as a lesbian at 18, I ID'd as female. Not because I felt female, but because that is the only way I thought I could ID. Then I discovered the Gender Spectrum. WOW.. I found where I belonged! I am a guy. As such, I don't go into women only space.. I don't belong. I am not saying that because I feel excluded and negitive about, more along the lines of I am not a woman, so why would I go into thier space? It did and still does kind of feel weird. It is something I have to grieve, this loss of being part of that community. I will grieve a bit when I get my Top surgery too, I think.. I am going to lose something that has been with me always. Not saying that I don't want the fat sacks gone, God knows that I DO.. But it is also a further step into being part of the male community. I hope that I am being clear here, I am never sure if I am or not.. lol My points in this thread are these.. -Do you still feel like you should be welcomed into women's only space after you own your male ID? -How do you try to show respect for the women that need and want thier own space? -Did you feel a loss of something after a certain point in your transition? I look forward to seeing how this thread spins out.. I truely hope that it is read as I intend and not as a bash or a rehash of other topics. Thank you, Tony __________________ The beatings shall continue.. until moral improves..