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Old 05-28-2010, 05:36 PM   #6
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Originally Posted by Hudson View Post
I guess I'm confused as to why any man (cis or trans) would need to explain why he doesn't go to 'lesbian' or 'women' events by stating he's 'not a woman'. Does it feel threatening to be invited? The OP and this one sound misogynistic to me. It *sounds* like you're rejecting woman space because there are women involved, not because you're uninterested in the activity or event.
Well, honestly, I *AM* rejecting it because women are involved. I have just started to pass and those that knew be before I started hormones thought of me as a really butch female.. I could be VERY interested in the activity and actually may way to go.. But I also know that there those involved in said events that wouldn't want me there because I am male. I try not to disrespect people as a general rule.

Do I feel threatened by being invited? No, a little exasperated? Yes. Would a transwomen want to be invited to an all gay male event? Maybe, but usually no.. Because they are women, not gay men or drag queens.

On a side note, I could be invited because this person doesn't respect my ID.. Or the inviter could just be "respecting my past as female".. Whatever the reason, I don't belong at a women's only event. Sorry you feel this is misogynistic, that wasn't my intent. I am human and can't please everyone with my thoughts or the way I word them.

Thanks for your post and letting me clarify myself..

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