After reading most of the posts...I really don't think there is a sterotype here. We all are "outside the box". I as a "femme" do wear my jeans, t's & ballcaps because they are comfortable. However I do wear my lace bras & undies under because I love the feel & love being a woman. I admire, fantasize, drool over a striking Butch, but will also, but don't want to do her, give props to a good looking, well put together femme.
I wear, proudly, my stilletos because I can & actually can walk, dance &...well nevermind, that's getting off the subject. We are who we are, we are comfortable in what we wear & do...That's all that matters. I don't think it should come down to "you are butch...go change the oil" or "your the femme...why aren't you in making dinner". All we can hope for is to be happy with ourselves & find someone who complements us, as we do them, in that way.
