When I know I *can* be in control, but she won't let me.
When we are getting ready to go out and I get ready and she gasps when she sees me
When I playfight with her
When she does things for me.. Anything I am capable of myself but she wants to do because I'm me and she's her.
When I've looked after myself and feel healthy
When I'm making money and being successful.
(NB some of these feel like distant memories but they'll also happen again soon)!