Thanks to Ms. Jen, I also read Bob Flanagan's
The Pain Journal. And, I watched the documentary,
Sick, based on the latter years of his life as a masochist. Both were truly eye-opening. I must say that I'm still (a few months later) awed at how much he challenges assumptions about pain--and, for me (specifically) the engagement (word choice?) between masochism and topping. Yes, I'm still mulling over this one

Thanks, Jen!
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You can’t change that system by just getting your own rights, tinkering with the engine and leaving. You have to take on the whole machine.
--Riki Anne Wilchins
Hold on to the lessons, let go of the pain.
--Leslie Feinberg