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Originally Posted by Sweet Bliss

maybe it's just my mood tonight, or maybe the hormone alphabet soup is going bad this evening........

but I personally find it really disheartening to continually see that only the rich, famous, beautiful, powerful, fantasy people warrant a crush.....


why are mature regular women not crush material?

just thinking outloud, it's rhetorical.

my crush is at Home Depot, mature butch, with beautiful brown eyes, and dimples, quick to laugh, and was polite, and shook my hand in greeting...... ya, the personal touch
.....literally

You have a point! Actually, my OP began with these sentiments in some ways. I am enjoying seeing older crushees all around we, but, are we (including me), still going for celebs?

In thinking about this, I think it is hard to post about real crushes that are about Planet people... it is for me other than members that are really friends or that I have good time reading what they have to say. Also, I know I think a lot about even using the word crush about femmes here I know are coupled. Some, not so much, because I actually know them and their partners and they know I have good boundaries. Sometimes its just hard.

I was thinking today about my real-time crushes of people around me that are not even queer, but who I admire and also might think are attractive. Those are kinda crushes. And I have been thinking about femmes here that a crush is again, about the content of what they post, or bring to the site. I have been touched by many people here.

I also started the thread because the other one seemed to have the perfect bodied, young, celebrity types that other than on TV or films, we wouldn't even be thinking about.

Then there is the whole age issue. I know that I feel that being older often feels that I am less sexy than, not as desirable as the younger butches. I'm sure older femmes feel the same way. Yet, as an older person, I know that the exterior is simply not the most important thing to me as far as possible romantic feelings. Then there all of the life stage elements that need to fit for me. For example, I'm retired and just have more leisure time than many younger people. I want to enjoy the freedom I have earned, so my dating is focused on femmes around my own age.

Hope this helps and addresses what you bring up. I would love a discussion about how we older folks view age within the community and especially relationships and dating. Believe me, I never thought I would be single at 59 and dating again. I've spent nearly 27 of my adult years (21 with one partner and 6 with another) with someone as a partner.

Yes... lets talk about that personal touch! A thread started by Heart on the old site about age and our cultural currency brought a whole lot of discussion out. As we age, what is really at the center of our crushes? Let’s do it! But, have fun, too!