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Originally Posted by IrishGrrl
OFFS..
Lets just start a thread called
"out of context fuck ups"
or
"let's kick Dylan's ass"
Seriously,
We'll save space and could maybe post pics too!
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Hey pretty girl!
I did it already this morning. His ass is officially kicked.
I don't like the term, because it's obviously hurtful. Dylan and I know that. I wouldn't refer to my mom that way, nor would Dylan. I think though I have used it in the context of saying that "patriarchy expects women to be as such" when clearly women are not and should not be seen as such.
But then we've already had the round and round discussion on that.
We respect women. Dylan respects women (or I wouldn't be with him).
One last note...I repped Sue to say that when I was a caseworker with CPS years ago, judges actually used the term (and one in particular here in Austin) to throw at women to make them feel bad for having so many children without thought as to what was happening to the children. Fathers were referred to as "sperm donors" and the mothers, just vessels for that, or the B word. It was gross and humiliating for women. Nevermind that the judge did not realize in one particular case that the woman had been gangraped oh say 7 or 8 times. Nevermind that in another case a woman had been raped and decided to keep and struggle through raising her daughter. Nevermind any of that.
**ETA** (I am not saying or condoning that a judge should ever use the term against women, but am pointing out specifically how assumptions were made and placed on the women despite her circumstance, which is some really fucked up shit all the way around, so please don't misread me here! Thanks.)
And Snow: Will you please buy me a cuppa coffee instead? I promise, I am much better company!!!