Gay bars are not for the past forty set, i find. i don't know how old you are, but they are dangerous places for the egos of older folks.
Lesbians are notoriously unfriendly to outsiders. (i know, i know . . . but it's mostly true).
It might not be easy to ease back in.
If you really want to date now, i would suggest a dating site or craigslist or whatever is available where you are.
If you want to meet people and get to know them, you are going to have to keep showing up until people get used to you. Bars would not be my first choice, but i don't know what else is available to you.
Also there will be slings and arrows and possibly drama. My best advice as someone who moved four years ago and had to reestablish community is YOU be picky. Don't bond with the first person who asks you to go shopping or hang out. See if you like them too.
It ain't fun getting back out there. i wish you the best of luck.
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