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Originally Posted by waxnrope
I understand about "intent", but how can we understand another's intent without inquiry? I don't mean the intent of someone with whom we've had ongoing battles ... personality clashes and the like ... rather, the intent of a hapless "Joe"/"Josephine" who has the temerity to just say something that is unwittingly forbidden or just disliked?
the problem lies in the person that stated the comment and them being humble enough to take accountablity for being an asshat. like when i made the mistake of posting in the Tap thread.oy vey did we cause a ruckus. but i took accountablity for being an asshat.
How do we know another's vulnerable places unless we are told ... or we step on or trip over them?
well refrain from saying inappropriate things to people that we dont have that type of relationship with and that will help. humor can be inappropriate also so tread lightly. just because it has a puchline doesnt make it ok to say.
Let me retain my image of you as delicate flower ... and I am not asserting myself "over" you by saying this.
so tell me if she says she is no delicate flower why is it so important to you to keep her in this light for yourself?? does it make you more comfortable when dealing with her?? personally i think it is dismissive to her statement.
I get that you are alpha. You say this about yourself. My leg is not raised at all, so to speak. I am simply using a little bit of humor to lighten the convo... and extending a hand to you.
see this kind of humor i don't find funny and try to steer clear of when approaching a person that i dont know. just a rule of respect to others i follow.
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waxnrope i apologize in advance if you take me as harsh but i do see a double standard but it isnt in what Snow did or said...it is in all the reactions surrounding her handling of Sam.