[The Oopster]

Originally Posted by Braedon

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Hi guys,

Well I originally started this thread because I was preparing to come out to My parents, and have of course done so. I have gotten through My gallbladder surgery, and as of yesterday its been a month since I had it (can't believe its been that long). I only have a couple weeks before I should be healed enough to resume My normal activities and that is going to include getting back in touch with the doctor who is going to help Me in My transition. I'm getting so close to being able to starting on T, and its exciting to be able to know that soon I'll be on My way to becoming the man that I know I am.

One of the next parts to My journey is going to be coming out to My family and friends, which is a hell of alot scarier than coming out to My parents (and that was scary enough). I'm not sure what to do, what to say, how to word how I feel etc so I'm coming to My fellow trans brothers to ask you for help. I know that everyone comes out to their families different but I wanna know ~ how did you come out to your families? Did you tell them outright or was it written in a letter? I guess I just wanna know everyone's experiences in regards to coming out to family and friends ~ any and all responses are greatly appreciated

What do you mean by family? and how close are you to them? My immediate family is small. I came out in a letter to my parents and brother at the same time. My parents have been fairly accepting, my brother not at all. As far as uncles, cousins, etc. I really don't have contact with them so no need to come out. I do want to try to reconnect with one aunt and uncle and I figure I'll probably do most of that by email and when it feels appropriate bring it up. My parents gave me their phone number and I feel weird calling until I've had some dialogue. I know they'll be accepting but it just would be weird to call them up with a male voice when they have no clue.

My nephews I will send them a short note and birthday/graduation/etc money once they are both out of the house. Won't really go into much but just say that now that they are on their own if they want to resume a relationship I am here. If they aren't ready at the time that the door is always open and I'm always here for them.

Friends weren't that hard .. most of them sort of figured it out ... acquaintences are the toughtest .... the most stubborn at changing stuff also. I usually try to weigh what relationships are worth pushing the issue and which aren't. I have a huge support group where I just don't want to explain it to everyone. Most people have caught on. There are a few that are getting to a point that I may need to talk to them only cause they confuse other people that may not know and may sometime be in a situation where it could put me in an unsafe situation.