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Originally Posted by Ben-Her
I'm curious then, SyrJess, why you would refer to her as "the 'femme' to your 'butch"?
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See, I saw this as problematic too, Jess. Even though you go on to say, "not for her support of me, but for the exact entity that she is."
While I love the love and respect you are showing her here, I also want to see you simply allow her the autonomy and agency she deserves (not that I believe you are necessarily disrespecting her). I understand that "the dance" has us thinking often of the bright space between us, the sharp contrast. But what was it about her that you loved before she was yours?
Who is she fundamentally? How can you define her without mentioning a role she inhabits (lover, sister, mother, friend)?
Tell us about her independent of you or even what she means
to you.
I want to know if we are ever seen clearly enough in the skin we're in, or if we're always bleeding into our roles.
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