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Originally Posted by AtLastHome
I'll say it again... no it is not. I know this is a personal thang for each of us.... which is kewl. What can get me miffed is having the dildo as every butches necessity stereotype. We are (as well as femmes) different about this stuff.
LOL... yup, thinking choosing one's own is part of positive self-care! Plus, shopping together can be a very erotic and sensual part of the dance between us. And one that can reveal a lot of important information that any lover would like to know about someone they are sharing intimacy with.
OK... yes, I am a monogamous, pretty much vanilla, non-stone, FIB... and am aware of the fact that everyone is different about this stuff. Enjoy whatever you find enjoyable! Bar none!
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What irks me about the whole strap-on/dildo thing is that it is equated with masculinity and maleness. As if a
woman cannot enjoy it
as a woman.
It also irks me that it is a shocker for a Femme to use.
With that said, I am not sure that I'd call it a necessity. I'm creative, and could sustain quite the healthy sexual relationship w/o one, but I do *likey*.
So I suppose that makes it a luxury since it's not in the do or die category.
On the other hand, my beloved is a lot like Jess in regards to the necessity portion.
How's that for an explanation?
I also feel like computers and cell phones are a luxury. I am a mean mean mommy who laughs when her children ask for cell phones. My rule is that nobody on earth under 16
needs a cell phone. Too much b/s happens with them and children to the point that I feel 16 to be the youngest (and a mature 16 at that) a kid should have a phone. It can be a good financial lesson for a teen as well as convenient because you can GPS where the child is.
We've had to pay attention to necessities due to high dollars spent on medication for me.
So: no "convenient" food. that means no stick it in the microwave for 3 minutes and have dinner. instant gratification in the kitchen is costly. i like to plan meals anymore and have the family work together to cook the meal plans. it saves us over $100 a week and gives us good family time.
No fancy cable channels. You'd be amazed at how much more time the kids spend with us when there are not so many choices. We end up playing board games.
Vacations. Not a necessity. Staycations have become fun, which can include camping in the backyard, slumber parties, and free things close to home,. I can't even tell you how much we save.
Newspapers and magazines: luxury (use the library)
Super fancy hair dresser: luxury. same for mani-pedi., it's fun to do at home with the girls and just go to a salon once every three months.
Extra Hot Double Mocha Upside Down Skinny Caramel Macchiato: Luxury.
I quit Starbucks and saves over $25 a week.
Using appliances any old time: Luxury. We wait it out for non-peak hours.
Movies: luxury to go to theater. we wait for dvd's to come out rather than spend $13 per person. With the exception of that damned Twilight because my kid got the grades necessary to make me utilize an exception.
i am rambling now. blah blah blah i could go on for hours. and hours.