[Liam]

Originally Posted by naturlover_52

This is something that I have been wondering or has been on my mind...
I know that there is the thread Butch/Butch Theory...and that sorta fits there but it kinda fits here too.
OK this is what has been on my mind and would like some in put or advice:
I am a 41 yr old soft butch in SO. Cal NOT too far from Pasadena. I have been out of my last relationship for about a yr, well from the time that she stopped calling me until she wrote me an email and told me that she had found someone else and was moving there to be w/ her and how compatible they were etc. Also I am mostly attracted to androgynous, soft butch and butch women.
I am a lil bit scared about meeting someone new because of the fact that it hasn't been that long since my last relationship, but technically our relationship was dying about 2 1/2 yrs ago.
MOSTLY why I am scared is because of the trust factor here and NOT knowing how to learn how trust again. That is what I was wanting to know...
Thanks.

I don't have a formula for you to follow, and I think this would be a great reason to find a therapist, if you don't already have one, and discuss it with them. I think that its important to trust yourself, and when setting up that first meeting, be smart—let your friends know where you are going, preferably it is a public space. If its in another city, make sure your friends know the name, address and phone number of the person you are going to see. Have a friend that you can check in with.