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violaine · 07-14-2010, 09:06 PM

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what if her intent was to scream and upset you on purpose would you have handled it the same?? since intent seems to be an important topic in this discussion.

i would not have accepted the job-

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so are you saying that if a person online keeps coming at me that it is up to me to leave??cause that is how i am reading it violaine.

oh no! it is not my place to tell you what you 'should' do. i only can write from my experiences, and i hope that you wouldn't leave.

very thorny with online situations, and i have been there myself. in fact, i've been wondering how well other aspies are able to even "communicate" really bad experiences to various online site moderators, and how they have been received by moderators. this comes to mind from something i read in the paper recently.

[COLOR="Red"]well and this is what i have been advocating all along...self preservation and safety. right or wrong is relative and not useful to me. what i find useful is people being responsible for their own actions and behaviors. the ones that dont have the ability to do this, well i am not sure what to say about this kind of situation. i do know that when a member sets a clear boundary and it continues to be crossed by another member then placing said invasive member in a victim light is not the answer. i am personally disgusted by that tactic.

i'm not sure either, because i've also had my boundaries crossed, it didn't stop when i asked - instead, it further escalated the person/situation.

hope i dont sound too harsh...i am a direct and blunt person but i promise i am not coming from an angry place or have bad intent.

not at all! i appreciate straightforward, and reading what you share, Grant.

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