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I agree with At Last Home, there should be a prenuptual with every marraige. I kid with whoever I date seriously, that I am building a "contract" that will need to be initialized, notarized and signed before I move in or we commit further. I might be kidding, but I also tell them I am serious...that we need to work out factors before we take a larger step. Here is a huge factor: I have one daughter who is 26. If she EVER needs to move in with me/us, she can. Period. Even if it means with husband and kids. PERIOD. Some people might not like that. So if they dont like it, I dont want to wait until this becomes important, to find out we are at odds with one another.

And some folks might say there are too many factors to consider. Not so. Factor: My kid comes first and I am always there for her...period. Ex: if she ever needs to stay with me, she can. Period.

And some say this takes the romance out of marraige. Jeez...so does divorce! I would rather know before hand that there are "deal breakers" before I commit. And you can gloss up the "before" marriage with all the romance you want. Bottom line is, if you are going to commit forever, the candles are gonna burn down eventually and you better be sure you can hold onto that person when the lights go out...