dont make someone else more significant to you than your partner. When you rely on someone else to be your other half, to share your thoughts and hopes and fears with, you are literally stealing that away from the person you said you loved.
dont set unrealistic expectations
dont make small things huge things.
Dont make her/his huge things inconsequential.
Share more than a bed with her/him. A relationship isnt whats in bed. Thats only a small % of it. When the covers are back and your feet hit the floor, that day should include him or her
dont cheat. For god sake, please dont cheat. And there are many ways to cheat. I just had a discussion with someone about online cheating. Its not just about sex. Its also about having your needs fulfilled by someone else and fulfilling someone else's needs before your partner's, too
dont share a bank account when you inherit large sums of money
dont hand your paycheck over
dont shove the child out of the way no matter how old she is
dont resent the animals in her/his life. You wont win
dont expect more out of the other person than you are willing to her/him to expect out of you. No double standards. You want him or her to look her best, be thin, dress top notch, etc, then you best do it too
dont manipulate to move in or to have her/him to move in, too soon. Lets help eradicate the uhaul legend...
and I see this with alot of online relationships: dont use someone up and caste them aside when you are "fixed". So many people hook up when someone is going thru a tough time..dealing with a death, having financial problems, experiencing major health issues. They hook up and when their grief is over, they have money in their pocket again or their health is better,they dump the person who helped them and move on...AND dont be the person who is needy. Hold off. Do it yourself. You will thank yourself big time later...
there is more but thats off the top of my head
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The field sees, the forest hears
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