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My Pop has always taught me that
"Critical judgment is self judgment". When a person points a judgmental finger at another, three fingers point back at them.
Sounds like your pop was a good man 
Softness, I get what you are saying. I don't believe I have ever had it done to me, but I have had a friend that could never live up to her gf's "ideal" woman. She knew this going into the relationship but fell in love so hard it didn't matter. Eventually, her gf's comments pertaining to her size, hair color, length of hair ETC got old and they broke up. So far, the gf hasn't found anyone in her "league".
OH..and neither one of them are on this site