[Isadora]

One of my first rules of engagement is that I do not ever discuss issues of body, emotion or intellect in public about a partner.

There is nothing more uncomfortable than watching or hearing or being close to this kind of behavior. In fact, the last time this happened I figured it was a public arena and as the "public" I stepped forward and chose to shut it down. ("This is a party. I did not come to the party to listen to you call your wife names. You are a pig and not in nice way. So take your little butch ass out of here and leave her the fuck alone cause I am bigger then you and I will crush you like a walnut. Never, ever let the skirts fool you.") Oh yes. I did. I was amazed at how many people thanked me afterward. I was amazed that 30 people at a party being horrified by such behavior did not have the tits to, at least, attempt to stop it.

I think of it as a gender neutral kind of thang. It is called human behavior. Bad behavior but still human.