Scorp??? Where are you lately??? I hope everything is okay in your world! Miss seeing you around here!
This subject is very deep for me...
My belief was (in the past): that I regretted parts of my life that I certainly, in my opinion, didn't have much control over. I spent a lot of energy 'regetting' incidents in my past. I don't do that anymore - better said - it wasn't until a year or so ago that I was able to let myself not regret my past - things that have ultimately become a part of my identity; things that have long been tied to my rationale (how I make sense of my world).
My belief now: is connected toward a deeper understanding that I have done the best I can do, did the best that I could do, in my life and as I rise to greet any new day... I know that I have a set of skills that helps me to faciliate situations (or problematic issues): If I don't know what to do, I turn to any number of close, personal friends to help me find a solution that works better than I could ever come up with on my own. Also, I know that I am human - that we're all (speaking in general terms) human in our abilities to solve our situations and in my life right now? I feel that where I am at, in my life experiences, etc., is rooted in my ability to make the best decision that I am capable of making - given that I am prone to not know all the answers, etc.
I know that years ago when I was earning my bachelor's degree, I took a psychology class - I believe it was social psychology - and I read something by Carl Rogers that has stayed with me, since I learned about it. It's the idea that as we age, we sometimes remember things in our lives that cause us heartache and because, seemingly, socio-cultural constructs (and in particular contexts) we pick up on messages in our environments that cue us to feel shame or feel guilt or feel any number of things that cause us to feel like we haven't taken or make the best choices in life. And, as Carl Rogers was arguing, that we come to a place in our lives where we come to terms with our past and learn to let go of what we could or should or would have done (Sunwolf, 2006 theory - the "Shoulda, Coulda, Woulda's") and I have to say that it feels good to accept myself in all my glory and know that if it were not for my past learning experiences, I definately would not be who I am today.
I'm a sweet lady, a wonderful human being and one hell of a Femme.
I love me, I like me and I have earned the right to say that I'm okay - just like I am.
Lots of beautiful love to all,
~D
