[Venus007]

1. Sometimes I miss little intricacies in relationships, like picking up on the fact that sometimes people DO want you to pry a little when they answer a question I figure they will tell me if they want to tell me and move on, sometimes resulting in hurt feelings on their part and confusion on mine.

2. If left to my own devices I believe I would end up being a hermit. Not because I don't love my friends but because by the time I looked up and noticed I wanted to be around people, the relationships would have withered from lack of cultivation. This is why I schedule things on my calendar like "call friends"

3. When I changed fields from being a health care compliance auditor to a professor I had a hard time with deciding how to act at work with colleagues. I have made a chart that shows what is considered "socially appropriate behavior" and I work it like a formula. Again if left to my own devices I would ignore them and be viewed as weird and socially inept which would not only make me feel awkward (as I have no ill will toward them) but also hurt my promotion opportunities thus my financial opportunities.

4. Apparently I am good at being social at work because I am generally well liked and people think I am outgoing and gregarious. I wonder if they would think the same if they knew I had to create a formula to do it.

5. When I was a young adult,I became obsessed with 'normal' and read about social interactions, manners, proxemics, culture and psychology to figure out how to relate to people. When in doubt I default to manners and what is studied to be culturally appropriate, it usually works