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Boots13 · 09-06-2010, 05:20 PM

Poignant Lessons

I spoke at my fathers funeral and having been estranged from him could only reflect on the high points and appreciation I had for this man through the eyes of a 9 year old. He shared so little of himself.

I was designated Administrator and organized my grandmothers funeral Mass but argued with my extended family in carrying out her final wishes. My cousins and sister no longer speak to me, in part, because I tried so desperately to carry out my Grandmothers final wishes. And in the end, even though I conceded to their overwhelming pressure her words still ring in my ears. "Don't burn me. I don't want to be burned". She was cremated and I don't know, in retrospect, how her service stepped so far from her desires.

Its so important to let your loved ones know exactly what you would like as a service or a final resting place. I think its equally important to outline your own personal successes and greatest accomplishments, not only what other people remember about you.

And on that note, I dont have anything written re; an obit.
This is a tough, but important thread. Thank you for starting it.

09-06-2010, 05:20 PM	#7
Boots13 Member How Do You Identify?: Butch Preferred Pronoun?: She Relationship Status: No Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: PNW Posts: 823 My Photo Gallery Thanks: 1,387 Thanked 2,314 Times in 428 Posts Rep Power: 21474852	Poignant Lives Poignant Lessons I spoke at my fathers funeral and having been estranged from him could only reflect on the high points and appreciation I had for this man through the eyes of a 9 year old. He shared so little of himself. I was designated Administrator and organized my grandmothers funeral Mass but argued with my extended family in carrying out her final wishes. My cousins and sister no longer speak to me, in part, because I tried so desperately to carry out my Grandmothers final wishes. And in the end, even though I conceded to their overwhelming pressure her words still ring in my ears. "Don't burn me. I don't want to be burned". She was cremated and I don't know, in retrospect, how her service stepped so far from her desires. Its so important to let your loved ones know exactly what you would like as a service or a final resting place. I think its equally important to outline your own personal successes and greatest accomplishments, not only what other people remember about you. And on that note, I dont have anything written re; an obit. This is a tough, but important thread. Thank you for starting it.