[girl_dee]

Originally Posted by Tcountry

I do respect your opinion...however I have to disagree...
*soulmate* is the one person who knows you all the way down to the core of your being...
Your smile, your voice tones, your secrets, your flaws...& loves you Because of them...
The person with whom you can communicate with (without words) no matter where you are or what situation you are in, be it alone in the bedroom or hosting a wonderful party with all of your friends...
They know when you need to be alone or when you need a hug and everything in between, & do and say just the right things at just the right moments...
& the only person who can make you smile when you really want to cry...
YES...it is rare to have someone know you so well...and you know them that well in return...but definitely someone who really makes you FEEL complete, not just happy or full of lust...but complete! *soft smile*

Thanks for your thoughts and words here.. I love all the interaction around this sort of thing...i love deep thinking and it's very hard to come by!

I just see this person you described above ( very nicely put and I believe we these people do exist for us) as my "lifemate", my partner, my forever (and I have found just this person so I do feel so fortunate,) but I just don't see a person as a *soul*mate..maybe it's the way the term is tossed around so easily that it really has no substance for me.. .to me this person you have described this is someone I have chosen to share my life with, but my soul is deeper than a human relationship. I've thought about this subject many times and I *think* that i feel that if my *soul*mate and I were to divorce, ( to believe this could not happen even in the best of relationships is not realistic to me) my soul would be damaged forever, that my very spirit would just curl up and die.. I just can't comprehend that.

I suppose this probably makes no sense ..LOL. Maybe at the end of the road, after we have been together for 100 more years, I will look back and say yes.. This was my soulmate, but I doubt it. I want my soul independent of a partnership. My head, my heart my body is all theirs, but my soul is not coming out to pair up LOL. I just can't bring myself to allow my soul to be that vulnerable,, its my higher self.... I mean how do you know this person IS your "soulmate" until after the lifetime has passed?

Maybe we all have a different opinion of what a *soul* is? And this is a great thing...I view my soul as my spirit, my mind, my I AM, it makes me who I am, and hopefully my spirit is loved and embraced by my partner ( I sure love his!) , I just feel that no matter what happens with my partner, my soul would be in tact (however deeply heartbroken ) and would continue to steer my spirit through life.. and I would hope theirs would too. In other words I guess I see a soul as a driving force that brings us to each other.. for the happily ever after. Relationships are formed and the the individuals embrace each other's spirits.. I don't see them as combined spirit/soul. . does that make any sense to anyone? LOL