[The_Lady_Snow]

Originally Posted by Bit

Snow, Isa, if I understand right, Kat is saying that we shouldn't be asking the Butches to answer questions about us in this thread.

Thanks Bit, I am hoping Kat comes in and answers though too..

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

Right. So do we need to clarify that in a clearly Femme id'd space? It seems tiresome to me to have to have a disclaimer of "only femmes answer me please".

So, how does this happen, why do butches answer for us when it's about us? Are we stepping back and letting it happen? Is it expected cause we are *femme* is this correct behaviour?

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

Has anybody here had the experience of being taken more seriously by both other Femme's and the rest of the community once you are in a long term relationship?

I am coming up on five years with Plato, and finally others have stopped acting like I am out to steal their honey. I personally never think twice about who Plato is around. If hy chose to cheat, that would be on hym. If it was a friend of mine? Same thing. It feels to *me* like there is a tendency to treat others as predators or some such thing.

When I was single I was labeled a slut. I kept hearing about people I'd had sex with. Sigh. Wish I"D BEEN THERE.

I am the soul sucking, will steal your butch, Lilith reincarnated why? I choose not to be in a long term relationship, *I* Snow choose to enjoy the fact I have a vagina and she loves to get fucked, *I* Snow have a big ol cock and oh yes I love to have it sucked clean.. *I* Snow do not like being tied down to one particular person, *I* Snow am sexual and have no qualms talking about how I like to fuck, wanna be fucked and will fuck. Though from the rumors you would swear I have fucked half the country.. Maybe sex scares some people, or maybe just those that are flapping their jaws are jealous? The world will never know..

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

Me too! Did you ever feel others were suspect of you when you were single? Did you feel less visible? Less valued?

No... No.. No... Do I enjoy the whispers and the pointing, when I was younger I was bothered, now I just raise my martini glass and smirk

Originally Posted by SuperFemme

Your kindness to me in Vegas helped me hang on. You give GREAT first impression and sometimes words aren't needed! I'd like to note that because I chose to not take any dates to Vegas I was accused of sleeping with several people whilst there. By the time the Ball rolled around a rumor was circulating that people had *searched* my suitcase in my room and discovered that my medication bottles were filled with vitamins and I was lying about having medical issues. Ummm? Seriously? Besides the fact that my meds were in my purse that whole thing was ridiculous. People gobbled it up and regurgitated it for years though. I was SO stressed that I had a seizure in the bathroom at the Ball which my friends held me through and sang opera to me.

oy vey, remember the rumor about how I was going to kill you that year?



You cannot win for losing. It has been said that I "buy my friends like Barbie". I pay to fuck. Laughable. On the other side of the coin? So what if I did? Whose business is it anyway?

Hey, you still owe me that Big Mac meal for our friendship.. Pay up damn it