[WingsOnFire]

I love this thread and all the responses. Damon knows I was a little unsure about the transition to being with a transgendered person when we met. However I was madly in love with him and didnt care how he identified. "He" was who I wanted to be with. I slipped in the beginning with calling him "he". He was very understanding and worked with me. I have friends who I care very much for that know. The rest I really dont give a damn. I lost many lesbian friends who just judged me for my relationship. In the end I realized if they couldnt be happy for me then I didnt need them. I made the right choice.

I feel completely natural talking about my "boyfriend" with my family and friends. I dont explain. I used to feel like I needed to explain and quite frankly those conversations with Damon were sometimes painful because I felt I needed to explain and he wanted to know why? I guess then it was wanting to be accepted. I realized quickly that I could care less if someone accepted me or not. If they didnt I just walked away.

I like the advice of a SOFFA yahoo group. I didnt even think of that. LOL I have forgotten the questions now after reading such wonderful responses... Good luck with your relationship and remember, communication is the key.

Becca