Let me just say... my / your preferences in life and love is NOT about questioning others,
BUT about finding the one(s) that share what I / you are looking for...IMHO
Having the WEB to search for my heart throb, friends, and educate me to others' sameness and differences is amazing.
Tho I have lived over a half century, I haven't learned everything (I don't even know what I don't know!). Being a people person I thrive on diversity
Enjoy your day!