[little man]

Originally Posted by softness

I too wonder why people dont date anymore! As soon as you go out, wham, they want to plant their shoes under the bed and their gutchies in a drawer. No thanks. At 53, I am D.O.N.E. with move ins. No one is going to live with me again. And personally, I would prefer a long distance dating than someone where I live. And yes, I can date long distance. I enjoy a car ride, have traveled by plane and train and bus (never again by bus!), as well as my dates have to come to see me. I dont want someone under foot all the time. I dont need someone in my bed, let alone on my couch 24/7. I have become a very independent woman these past two years. Now, if someone locally could keep my boundaries I set, then yeah, I would date them too, but my experience has been that once you date someone locally and go out more than 5 times together, everyone locally considers you off limits to anyone else. Now how can I date if everyone considers me "taken"?

I wonder if anyone else feels this way about dating long distance? I know I have had some people negate my long distance relationships as though they arent REAL relationships. Shame on them for being so narcissistic that only their way is the right way. I just shake my head and consider the source. Not everyone has the same needs. Not everyone has the same needs in relationships. Let alone in dating.

Some might argue its an expensive date if you have to buy a ticket and some might say there would be assumed sexual privelages right off the bat. I counter that 10 local dates could cost the same amount as a ticket. And no, there is no assumed sexual privelages! Yikes! Why not pass the plate around and take up a donation to just buy sex! Why bother with dating at all!!!!

i would agree, that dating is a long lost art. it does seem that "dating" someone means you're off the market. if you date more than one person, you're automatically a player. wtf?

i would also agree on the LDR issue, as well. i don't know that i'm suitable for cohabitation any more. maybe, but maybe not. i'm more interested in finding someone who has a life and wants to make a little room for me...not someone looking to be "completed" by another. hell, i'm at the doorstep of 53 and don't have the time (nor the interest) in games...

at this stage, sex is a bonus. i'm more interested in companionship and good conversation...someone i whose company i enjoy. the chasing my dick days are behind me, i think...although the right person might have me chasing them.

these are great points, thanks for bringing them up.