[Mister Bent]

Originally Posted by rlin

(all the disclaimers that are needed are assumed for this entire line of questioning... this is all my own thoughts about all my own shit...)

i know that girls mature faster than boys supposedly... that is stated in the language which it is usually reported in...

does anyone have any thought on whether butch matures slower than femme?
do you think this is a masculine feminine phenomena?

this is not a trolling thread...
i am really curious about this because i feel like i am finally maturing... sad part is... im 45 fukn yrs old...

I think Jenny really grasped the crux here:

Once we reach physical adulthood, though, I think that "maturity" has less to do with gender identity or biological sex. After passing through our teen years, I think what most would consider "maturity" is more emotional and psychological in basis than physical. Could some of that emotional/psychological stuff be due to the work done in sorting out issues with gender identity? Sure. But I think there's a lot of factors at play here -- not *just* gender.

I also think that if you're going to seriously entertain a question/topic like this that you need to start with what the parameters are of "mature."

Frankly, I think a lot of the immaturity witnessed among butches and other masculine identities comes from posturing the most negative/stereotypical male behavior; a sort of "frat boy" mentality. It likely does come from an attempt to "find oneself" as a masculine person, but I don't believe it is based in gender or sex/uality. More so it feels based in emotional immaturity and lack of reasonable role models.