Not all bad relationships are abusive, although all abusive relationships are bad.
Not all bad things we do in a relationship means we are an abusers.
High conflict relationships are not necessarily abusive.
Healthy relationships include conflict and fighting.
So how can you tell if it's a lousy relationship or abuse?
Abusers seek
control and are willing to use coercive tactics, including violence, to achieve and maintain control in a relationship.
Abusers engage in patterns of escalation and de-escalation that the victim has no control over, (even when they think they do).
Victims experience fewer options and choices, and growing fear and danger, over time.
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