Linus,
In my view, I have had a bit of both thrown my way. For example, when in the glbt community I am who I am. However, in the straight community I feel the need to constantly have to tell ppl gently that my name is Andrew. Sometimes ppl are rude and nasty trying to be just that. On the other side of the coin, sometimes they mean no harm.
All of my doctors call me Andrew. All of the important people in my life call me Andrew. And I expect that. It is respect.
In the Jewish faith, men hold the main tradition as being head of the household. It is expected that they work, bring home the money to support their family, and carry on all business of life & living. Women are really 2nd class citizens (Hysidic - spelling?). Now, you have known me, and Rosie and see our struggles. I don't work. I have to rely and depend on others for survival. Without that help, I don't survive. That is how it is.
As for flying...that is another story. I hate to fly. I am always, forever, and a day the one that is pulled aside, and practically have to undress for everyone and be wanded down. I still don't get it. Rosie takes on the role of taking on all the carry-on's, and handling the luggage, but I still get pulled over. Go figure.
I think if there was a more easier way to have your gender and name change be done, then we should be able to do it. I just think it is wrong on so many levels that every state is different in how this is processed. I really am liking the idea of a one card for everyone, including passport. That makes sense to me.
Straight white men have always been given the leaway in society. It makes me think that everyone else is discriminated against.
Great thread!
Love,
Andrew
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