[NotAnAverageGuy]

Originally Posted by theoddz

Oh no....you got it right!!!

I adore my mother....we both do....and it's always great to see her. But she's "no longer the woman who raised me", if that makes sense. Well, I take that back. She is, but she's gotten older, as we all have, and now it seems that the rolls have been reversed.....and I've never been good with children. So when she visits these days, it's both joyful yet heartbreaking, too, and it carries with it a lot of responsibility on me, and it's stressful. Last year, she slipped and fell while getting out of the shower in the small bathroom. It scared me to death and I spent the night in the ER with her, having her looked at and making sure she didn't break anything. She's 87...nearly 88 this April, so things like broken hips and falls are always things I worry about with her.

I'm really just glad she's coming. She's really in good health for her years, though her mind is what I worry about. She's slipping and getting confused. She has moments when she behaves as a child, and she can't hear all that well, either, so you tell her one thing and she "hears" another. At this point, though, I treasure each and every minute I have with her, because I'm sure we're getting down to the last few Christmases I'll have with this beautiful, strong, loving woman who has often told my sister and me, "I couldn't love either of you more if I'd had you myself." (we're adopted)

So, that's kinda what I'm feeling and thinking today.

~Theo~

I understand bro, I dread this with my folks and I saw my grandparents slowly slip away, and Kudos to your mom for adopting you and your sister.

I am a fellow adoptee as well!!!!!


Kudos to you as well for taking on the challenges that face many of us with our aging parents.